Mary,

Regretfully, your experience reflects the norm for former members of WOFF. It is sad.

John

Cyndy,

Thank you — for the affirmation. Your struggles have the same marks of hurt and pain. May you continue to find help in your journey to peace and renewed strength.

John

It took a lot of courage and transparency to publish the comments by your ex wife. As a former cult member myself……….not WOFF……….I too have endured the false accusations of my former spouse and estranged children. As a personal friend and blog follower, I know that John dearly loves his children and would do anything for them. He stands ready to embrace them and to offer them the freedom and truth that he has found. His heart has been broken but he can do little to repair the damage that continues from WOFF influence.

Though he has lost so much, he continues to help others who are trapped in controlling religious organizations. This blog is one effort and like he mentions, it was started to help him in his healing.

The destruction of families in the name of God is a modern day holocaust. Self appointed religious leaders are getting by with this in the name of religious freedom everyday. I have lost everything………but my freedom. I thank John for his efforts….I know he speaks the truth………..

To my blog readers,

It is with mixed emotions that I hit the “Approve” button for the comment from my wife of over 20 years. First, it saddens me that the depth of a rebuke from her was contained in the statement- “It is all such a lie. Everything he says is one lie after another.” This is the shallow technique taught my her leader, Jane Whaley. Contained in that answer is no critical thinking or point by point, thought provoking rebuttal of any of the concerns, claims or experiences which I have documented from my time within WOFF. If a present member will let down their WOFF-wall long enough to consider the entire scope of the doctrines, practices and unique signature experiences within WOFF, this would help them accurately weigh the value and lasting effects of membership. Many have done that and WOFF comes up lacking.

Another emotion that springs forth as I read this comment is the hurt for my broken family. To “serve God” for a faithful WOFF member means that can be done only while at WOFF. For them, there is no good reason to leave WOFF. The subtle creeping maneuvers of Jane and her leadership to replace the authority of the parents with their children is a large part of the scheme to destroy families.

There is no doubt that Jane has no remorse for the family units she has destroyed. If she had any regrets, why would the number continue to grow? As mentioned before, I have labeled her a serial relationship killer. She makes Gary Ridgeway look ineffective.

When I first left and began to write my experiences, it was for a therapeutic effect. As I encountered others from WOFF, as well as other groups, who had the same or similar experiences, it only fueled my desire to know why and how I had fallen into WOFF. How does Jane cast her net on many unsuspecting members? Those questions are worthy of answers. I have attempted to share the answers I have found- on this blog. A few readers have agreed with my findings.

How do you deal with the years of lost love and time together as a family? The pangs run deep for me as I search to soothe the anguish and sense of loss. All over what? There is no doubt I love the family which will not consider talking to or spending time with me because I seek answers for questions they are afraid to ask, or afraid to admit they have inside their own heart. To them I say, I am here for you. I love you and will help you when you decide you need answers to the questions one is not able to utter while inside WOFF.

Love,

John/Dad