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Eighteen Years Ago Today- March 13, 1995

Has it been that long? For many reasons, some known and some unknown; the months and years that have passed since March 13, 1995 seem as a blur. As the song says; “Don’t Blink!” Where were you? What do you remember about that time period? For me, it is filled with loving joyful memories as my son was born at the St. Francis Women’s and Family Hospital in Greenville, SC on that wonderful day. (The hospital is now called – St Francis eastside.) We referred to it as the hospital with the green roof! It was a very exciting day amidst a series of events that would change the lives of many in Greenville, SC and Spindale, NC.

First, let me share what I remember about that day for our family. We lived on Central Ave. in Mauldin, SC with another member of Grace and Truth Fellowship. We had moved to Greenville in March of 1992 from Summerville, SC. When we moved, our daughter was sixteen months old. During the three years since we arrived, we had integrated into the Fellowship and settled into the routine of attending services several times a week, while my wife taught in the church run school that my daughter attended. During those years, I worked several part-time jobs in order to attend the “Training Center” at Grace and Truth. That subject is for another day.

If my memory serves me correctly, when we checked into the hospital,we were on the second floor in the maternity ward in a spacious delivery room. Several ladies from the church surrounded us as we witnessed the miracle of birth of our son. Medically, the process seemed to go smoothly, as smoothly as it does, I reckon. (Easy for me to say, I was a coach and supporter, my wife did all the hard work …) Our son was healthy and had no apparent medical alarms. We both stayed the night as I remember. I slept on a chair that pulled out into a sleeper. Before the evening was done, the lady we lived with brought our daughter to the hospital to see her new brother. Many smiles were on everyone that night!

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Would You Recognize a Christian Cult if You Were In One?

The premise of this post is simple. I will review a blog post from a leading Christian magazine website and compare the material to my own experiences from my time at Word of Faith Fellowship (WOFF).  Some of my readers may disagree with the source of the post, but, please review the material with an open mind and heart. The post is titled, “Would You Recognize a Christian Cult if You Were In One?” The blog is “The Plumbline” by Jennifer LeClaire found on the website for Charisma Magazine- the main site found here- http://www.charismamag.com . Her post is dated November 29, 2012.

My hopes for this post are the same as for the blog overall. I aim to retell my experiences and inform about the present happenings surrounding this group and others. All the while seeking to spark readers to discern their own experiences and make quality decisions for change. I have no formal training to lean on as stated before.  I do not pretend to be a professional anything. My experiences and my desire to tell those experiences in a fitting, truthful and forthright manner are the foundation that allows me the motivation to continue. For those readers that have traveled this path with me, you know that I have had my own personal struggles when processing the decisions I made that led me to join and leave WOFF. And for those that understand the trials of leaving a group such as WOFF, you also know that just the act of leaving does not bring immediate healing. A survivor must learn to process the past and prepare for their future, one day at a time, all of this while discovering who they were before they joined, who they are now and who they want to become. For a second generation survivor who grew up in WOFF or a similar group; it is like starting all over and learning to crawl while the people around you expect you to run. Recovery and/or discovery can be a slow process.

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Confusion Around a Meeting at Word of Faith Fellowship (video)

On Wednesday, March 6, 2013, the confusion and conundrums around the controversial Word of Faith Fellowship (WOFF) increased yet further. The controversy surrounded a meeting held Wednesday evening at the “campus”. This video link below from WLOS in Asheville, NC outlines the main points. Reporter Ashlea Surles gives a brief outline of the events. You may have to use your “back” button in order to return to this post.  Please, read on after viewing the video for the possible fallout from the confusion.

http://www.wlos.com/shared/news/features/top-stories/stories/wlos_church-blocks-gay-rights-group-10857.shtml

This was not surprise move from the WOFF playbook; they feel they are under “attack.” It appears that Brent Childers was trying to warn Dr. Kokkonen about the group. Well, that seems fair, right? Per Josh, “All I know is that the email disturbed the speaker.”  “We absolutely have nothing to hide,” said Farmer. I found that frankly a surreal stretch of a representation of their actions in the past, both while I was inside and now that I am out. Nothing to hide? Laughable! The façade that exists when visitors attend the services is vibrant evidence that there are things to hide, actions and practices that others may find strange or abusive. Shall we list them?

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Is Simple Assault a Vital Part of the Word of Faith Fellowship Practices? (2)

As we continue with a review of the question- Is Simple Assault a Vital Part of the Word of Faith Fellowship Practices?– let me acknowledge how absurd the question may sound to some and how obvious the answer may seem to others. For those that have only seen the sweet side of Jane Whaley and never lived inside the group under the ongoing, smothering, confining fear-hold that she has on her faithful members- then yes, even the question is surreal. For those individuals, I ask you to hang on and finish reading the series before you totally dismiss the question. My hopes are to at least give you some food for thought concerning your ideas of conduct inside Word of Faith Fellowship (WOFF).

Before this series is over, I hope to give everyone reasons to pause and consider the practices of WOFF in a new light. In order to do this, we will eventually be breaking down and discussing what has become ominously known as the “Injunction” from June of 2005. For those that may not know, WOFF sued Rutherford County Department of Social Services (RCDSS) and in June of 2005, there was a COMPROMISE reached. The stipulations of the compromise worked out by lawyers from each side included guidelines for handling of certain types of complaints concerning the conduct of WOFF members. Let’s not get ahead of ourselves.

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Is Simple Assault a Vital Part of the Word of Faith Fellowship Practices? (1)

Recently, I obtained some very disturbing information about new discipline practices that have evolved at Word of Faith Fellowship (WOFF). If my source is accurate, and I have no reason to think that their knowledge is less than up close and personal; then it appears that Simple Assault has become a consistent tool for “correction” inside WOFF.

Before I give the account, let me say that after I left in 2008, it took a while to decompress and as it were- begin to assimilate and process that experiences over the last 16 years. I was in denial for a long time as to the intensity with which Jane Whaley’s edicts were carried out. After all, didn’t she speak for “God?” While I was inside, I wrestled with that required basic belief which faces every WOFF member. Does Jane speak for God? For some to deny it would mean they would soon “meet the authority of God in Jane Whaley.” That translates into her making a show of how much she owns you and has the power to direct your life at ALL levels. Many times, this revelation was accompanied with loud shouting, shrills of “prayer” and in some cases- physical restraint until you bowed your knee to her. When it was happening to others, there was in me a disengagement and denial that I would ever be required to do that. Oh, I was wrong and therein was the beginning of my exit story- previously told on this blog.

Why do I insert these musings here? For this reason, for outsiders it is next to impossible to convey the level of power, influence, control and fear-hold that Jane has over her members. Honestly, not everyone is controlled to the exact same degree, but, everyone is controlled at some level or they don’t stay. As I tell of the new discipline measures which have developed, do not think for an instant that the intense interactions have not been allowed or even prompted – at the minimum – APRROVED by Jane Whaley herself. NOTHING happens twice inside that group without Jane’s approval. So, here we go…

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“It is never too late to wake-up and leave…” Steve Hassan (video)

Over the last few weeks, there has been a major increase in the supply of material that is fitting for this blog. It has been hard to focus on what to post next. Today, I received notice of this video and stopped everything to watch it. The speaker is Steve Hassan, a leading author and expert in mind control techniques and an ever-giving resource of help for those wanting to understand cults and their nuances. We have featured his work on this blog before; however, this video has some timely comments on current events surrounding the subject of cults and mind control. We will review a few excerpts and tie them back to subjects discussed previously on this blog.

The video is less than twenty-five minutes long. He recently spoke at the Society for  Ethical Culture in NY and apparently he has many friends there.

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Helping Second Generation Cult Survivors (video)

Occasionally I come across resources that captivate my attention and leave no doubt in my mind that I must share them on this blog. Today, we will review one such resource. After the recent drama of a Word of Faith Fellowship (WOFF) second generation survivor returning to WOFF, my attention was drawn to research that type of survivor. Second generation cult survivors are those who have been born in and raised inside a cult and then left the group. We have chronicled the drama of one such survivor and the outpouring of email filled with vivid emotions has touched me. Many have been stunned and many have been dismayed. This prompted me to dig deeper in to the subject of second generation cult survivors.

A simple search for “second generation cult survivors” led me to several resources. Today, we will review one of the finds of this search. Cyndi Matthews has a website which displays her work for her dissertation for her doctorate degree. The title includes this header:

“Cyndi Matthews, PhD Candidate, LPC, NCC- Counseling with Second Generation Cult Survivors”

The title excited me and it left me wanting to read and consume her work. As a disclaimer, I must add I have written and obtained permission to quote her work and post her videos. This permission does not assume she agrees with my work or my conclusions in this post or elsewhere on this blog. She is welcome to reply or comment, but, no endorsement of this blog is inferred.

(the resource link- http://contentbuilder.merlot.org/toolkit/html/snapshot.php?id=48842394583712 )

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