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We Can’t Afford That Right Now

    The protest in Wisconsin has many across America thinking about the future. And for sure, we should all be considering what steps need to be taken now to avoid certain financial disaster. If spending budgets do not change, there are hard times looming in the not too distant future of the individual states as well as the nation as a whole. The National Debt is growing… see this site for a graphic display— http://www.usdebtclock.org/ .  We have several spending “habits” that are unsustainable at many levels of government. It appears the governor of Wisconsin has decided to make the steps he believes will help the entire state. Others should listen and take notes.  

    Yesterday, as I was driving near Charlotte, NC, I tuned into the radio broadcast of Dave Ramsey. He was finishing a discussion about family budget questions and made the statement that it was okay to tell your children you could not afford something they wanted. (I will paraphrase the comments here). He then made the comment that many states will need to do the same thing and tell their citizens that we cannot afford everything we want or have had in the past. Cuts will have to be made or governments will fail financially. We don’t need that. He referenced the situation in Wisconsin and then closed his program.  

    The phrase that caught my attention was “we cannot afford that right now.” Why? Because while I was in Word of Faith Fellowship (WOFF), we were taught to NOT say that phrase to our children. It would hurt them, it could hurt their faith.  It really was a precarious position and strained family budgets at times. If an item was approved and others were buying it (whatever “it” was), then there was great pressure to come up with the funds and buy “it”. Sometimes we were even told to go to church leadership and ask for help to get “it”.

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February 18th – What Happened on This Date?

  Do you know? Do you remember? For certain, I will not pretend and say I knew before I was reminded earlier today. Today, while driving near Charlotte, NC, I heard a radio program that was asking people to call in and tell where they were or what they remembered about this date- ten years ago. February 18, 2001 – was a Sunday. Once the announcer revealed the event, I knew exactly where I was when I heard that Dale Earnhardt, Sr. had been killed in a wreck at Daytona. Let me explain.

    We were still living Greenville at the time, but were traveling to Spindale, NC to be a part of the Sunday nights services at Word of Faith Fellowship (WOFF). I can’t tell you what Jane Whaley preached that night or if she was even in town. But, I remember on the way home we stopped at the Texaco station in Tryon, NC. It was more than likely around 9:15 to 9:30 PM. We stopped at this station frequently on the way home as they had doughnuts – reduced or even free! I parked the van and as I went in I noticed throngs of folks in the station. This was unusual and caught my eye. Had others found out about the “free” doughnuts?

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Dr. Margaret Singer – Voice for the Cult Survivor

   Several of the books I have recently purchased and will be reading deal with recovering from cults and the effects of cults. One such book is “Recovery from Cults” – Help for Victims of Psychological and Spiritual Abuse– Edited by Michael Langone- (copyright © 1993 American Family Foundation – ISBN 0-393-31321-2). The preface is written by Margaret Thaler Singer, Ph. D. (1921-2003). Her biography in this book contains these statements about her work. She served as Adjunct Professor of Psychology at University of California, Berkley. …Dr. Singer has been a contributor to many edited volumes on cults and related subjects, including The Family Therapist as Systems Consultant (Guilford Press) (page xiii) A brief review of additional information about Dr. Singer found here… http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Margaret_Singer reveals her work against cults. “She developed theories about how cults recruit and retain members (such as her Theory of Systematic Manipulation of Social and Psychological Influence) and was on the board of the American Family Foundation, the major anti-cult group in the United States.”

     In the preface, she outlines her pathway into research and study of cults, their techniques and the results upon members, ex-members and families of cult members. Toward the beginning of her research she “concluded that cultic groups were not using mysterious, esoteric methods, but they had refined the “folk art of human manipulation and influence”… The cults created programs of social and psychological influence that were effective for their goals.” (page xvii)  She goes on to describe “pioneer families” of the 1960’s who were seeing their children enter cults and the subsequent search for answers. “The parents’ concerns were not that their young-adult children had taken up a new religion, nor were they concerned that their loved ones had left school and home or had completely redirected the course of their lives to help mankind by joining altruistic groups. They were concerned that these young adults were doing none of the above but seemed to have closed their minds to the past, their families and friends and were simply helping a band of itinerant gurus, pied pipers, self-proclaimed messiahs become wealthy and powerful.” (page xviii emphasis added)

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Healing from Spiritual and Emotional Abuse by Shari Howerton

   The following post is copied with permission from the blog of the survivor and author, Shari Howerton. It can be found at this link…  http://tinyurl.com/4ky2gb2 . This post is to me of the same open and honest quality with which the book was written.  Thank you, Shari for allowing me to share your work with the readers of this blog. Certainly hoping all will be helped as much as I have been by your story, your insights and your victories. The book can be found here http://www.sharihowerton.com/ .

Survivor Shares Her Story and Journey to Freedom
Breaking the Chains- Overcoming the Spiritual Abuse of a False Gospel

 “I have recently been corresponding with a few more readers of my book. Since my book is a testimony, it has a limited audience. And since I am an unknown, self-published author, it will never be a bestseller. But it continues to sell (albeit in small numbers) each month. And I continue to hear from readers. Many of the people who have written to me were loaned a copy by someone who wanted to share it. I know that some authors might be frustrated by that because it means less book sales. But that doesn’t bother me at all. I spent nearly a year of my life working on the book. I poured my heart into it. And what is most rewarding for me is just knowing that it is still being read.

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Which is Worse and Why?

    There are many grievous events and happenings in this world. As humans, we tend to rank events by severity and classify them according to which one is worse than another. Now, it is true that in the legal system, certain crimes committed against many by one or by a few are treated differently than a crime of one against one or for a “lesser” crime. For instance, a person stealing a purse from one person may obtain a lesser sentence than a person stealing purses from several women over time. This is part of our system and the result or consequence tends to be that as individuals we rank crimes or “sins” against people in the same manner.

   However, is that they way we should view crimes when considering how one individual would/could control another? Is it a lesser crime or “sin” to control three folks than to control a hundred or a million people?  I am not talking about the true responsibility of parents to guide and control their children during their formative years. In this post we will consider adults controlling other adults for whatever reason, but, especially those controlled for personal gain of the controller.

    Controllers can be found in many areas of society. You could be controlled by a boss on your job. This control is somehow not deemed as a crime or injustice until that control overreaches into one’s personal life. Why? Because there is a certain amount of compliance or obedience expected during working hours while on the job. So, this kind of control is not viewed as a crime per se. You are in essence trading hours of your day for an amount of dollars and thus you are told what to do while on that job.

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Do You Think It Is Possible?

     As many readers already know, I spent many years under the direct or indirect influence of Jane Whaley, the leader of Word of Faith Fellowship (WOFF) in Spindale, NC. Since my departure in July of 2008, I learned many things about my time spent inside WOFF. Even now, 32 months later, I admit there are areas of my life where I still recognize the influence of WOFF teachings and more specifically the teachings, sayings and doings of Jane Whaley. The process of recovery continues. As I move forward, I have been reading accounts of survivors of other groups and seeing the similarities between their groups and life at WOFF. These similarities are fascinating to me since while at WOFF, I was told and believed that there was no other place quite like WOFF. A person could travel the world and not find a place filled with such love and support. For many years, I believed it. Then as the control upon my life became tighter and the methods became clearer, I began to doubt that what I saw and how I was treated was actually God’s plan. As the curtain over my eyes was lifted, I began to see how others were being treated in a new light. This all came into play as I made the decision to leave WOFF.    

     One aspect of life at WOFF was the continual naming of devils that Jane or someone in leadership would discover. In a previous post titled, “Jane Whaley Said…” found here- https://religiouscultsinfo.com/?p=3449    the following paragraph was included:

    Some children get that “math devil”.  Yes, there are “math devils” in her school room! Jane made this statement June 1, 2008 standing in the breezeway (actually, it may have been the hallway near the fellowship room in the office building). She was talking to a visitor that came with me to the graduation ceremony that evening. Jane was telling how wonderful her class of four and five year olds was doing. Then she lamented that sometimes they get the “math devil.” In Jane’s world, there are lots of devils. Each one has a name and if you don’t know the name, ask her. She will tell you. While at WOFF, the entire list of “devils” that were named, I could not retell. There was the “video devil” for those watching DVD’s in their van… There were “ping pong devils” for that’s right, folks playing ping pong. Here is a quote from this (that) post… Jane had said folks may have a “music devil” if the music occupies too much of their time or a “religious devil” if they read their Bible too much. There was a “control devil”, a “money devil”, a “foolish devil”…  the list goes on and on and gets longer as Jane Whaley needs to demean another member in order to further her control over them and others. See here… https://religiouscultsinfo.com/?p=1976

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Never Too Late to Tell Your Experiences…

    Recently, a story came to my attention about a lady in Oklahoma, who had survived several years in a cult. Her name is Olga Vesta Button and she is 90 years old. Her story began many years ago as she was forced to marry a man twice her age. The “church” was called – The Mission. Here is the interview from KFOR.com Channel 4. (Scroll down after seeing the news clip and select “Read More..” to learn the reason I posted this video….  )

Woman Escapes Religious Cult in OK

 

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