Loss of Absolute Answers

   In two previous posts, Janice Hutchinson’s work in her book, “Out of the Cults and Into the Church” (copyright 1994, Kregal Pub.) is referenced. Those links are here.. http://religiouscultsinfo.com/?p=261 and here.. http://religiouscultsinfo.com/?p=2235 .  Janis, as an ex-Mormon, works mainly with ex-Mormons.  She has taken on the task of helping others make the transition from cult groups to the Christian church. While reading the first part of this book, I have been so shocked in some ways that ex-Mormons would have the same struggles as former Word of Faith Fellowship (WOFF) members!

    The format Ms. Hutchinson uses to present her information is a synthesis or compilation of many sessions spent with former cult members. She draws on her experience in actual real life cases to give insight for those wanting to help ex-cultists.  In chapter 3 of her book, titled “Conflict of Soul”, she explains how certain “losses” are emotionally traumatic to an ex-cultist. One way to look at the “losses” of former cult members would be to say that these are areas, which cults perform well in meeting certain needs. The items in the list may or may not be true for all former WOFF members. My belief is that not all WOFF members experience the same level or measures of mind control. There are group control efforts and individual control measures used. Nevertheless, I will comment on the areas I experienced in hopes of helping others in the same or similar situation.

    An area of “loss” for former cult members is listed as “loss of absolute answers”. “Dress standards, health habits, and moral guidelines, all the way to world problems are authoritatively answered by cults. (page 62) Ms. Hutchinson goes on the say that former cult members may feel that Christian churches don’t give them the absolute answers on the many subjects. That can leave them feeling a loss or need for direction. A need for someone to tell them what is right and wrong.

    

   During my time at WOFF, very rarely were you ever left to figure things out for yourself. There were rules for almost everything. There were so many rules and “don’ts”, it was hard to remember them all. But, the folks around you could help you remember. Jane Whaley would certainly help folks remember. I still have occasions where a situation will arise and the thought comes, “We don’t do that.” Or “We don’t say that…” or “We don’t wear that.”  Old tapes and behavior patterns go away slowly and are hard to just erase.

    If you have not read the series explaining “WOFF Don’ts” see this link.. http://religiouscultsinfo.com/?p=650 start there and don’t miss the list here.. http://religiouscultsinfo.com/wp-content/uploads/2010/03/WOFFdontlist-03-10.doc   

    Later in chapter 3, the “group” discusses a list of Biblical guidelines that could replace the list of do’s and don’ts issued by each of their cult groups. All guidelines were supported by scripture. In pondering the list, the question was posed, “Is there a need to replace “cult rules” with Christian “rules” because there is still a “fear mentality” from the cult? For so long we (cult members) believed if we did not live up to the rules we would incur disapproval?”(page 73) This scripture was then suggested;

15For you did not receive a spirit that makes you a slave again to fear, but you received the Spirit of sonship.[a] And by him we cry, “Abba,[b] Father.”  (Rom. 8:15 New International Version)

    Certainly, this passage does not say we are to live be a list of “do’s and DON’TS”; that is what the Jewish people attempted under the Old Covenant. A “rule” list can be written as in some groups, or verbal and fluid as at WOFF. My experience at WOFF showed that a verbal list was more fluid and adapted well to the leader acquiring more “fear-based power”. The leader, Jane Whaley, could then not only give the rules, but define them and imprint them on the minds of the people with her “authority”.   For those who are true believers, living by the Holy Spirit is God’s plan. It is His purpose to lead Christians into good works and away from the bad works. How can a man-made list replace the Spirit of God? But, in religious cult groups, this is exactly what is attempted. I know I lived in it for years at WOFF.  

     As I have read this book by Hutchinson, I am shocked in many ways to see that religious cults have many of the same traits and characteristics. The methods remain almost constant from group to group. The outcomes remain constant, also.  

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      (Please, take time to read the Terms of Use for this personal blog. As mentioned, the information about WOFF is from my memories and recollections as perfect as that may be or not be. ) This is post number 109.

3 thoughts on “Loss of Absolute Answers”

  1. I still have thoughts about “what WE do, say,or wear” Or rather what “we don’t do say or wear” Then I remember It is not WE anymore but ME. I can hear from GOD and obey. God is more concerned about my heart, soul and spirit than whether I wear jeans or not!!! Or if I look like everyone else!! I showed the website to a new friend ( we found out that we had met each other years ago at Memorial.She was an ICU/CCU nurse, I worked in dialysis there) We were at meeting out of town and thru mutual friends were sharing a very nice room together. Her first words were….COOKIE CUTTER …PEOPLE ALL HAVE THE SAME LOOK!! She knew nothing of my life with this cult!!There were 4 of us ladies in the room. Together they all said…You don’t look like that, you look so relaxed and peaceful and happy (now). I saw my niece that weekend also. She said the same thing….that I reminded her of what I was before that church. She is going to a psychologist(she is on the final leg of that journey) She was so concerned about my son, Wanted to make sure that he was getting help to deal with everything. I assured her he is. Yes there are losses that occurr when you are in a cult and make the move to come out. The biggest is the loss of years with family!! But the greatest thing is discovering who and what I am in the eyes of Jesus!!

  2. I always thought it was strange that we could not wear any clothes that were “worldly”…like jeans and different styles of clothing, etc…but it was OK to where Ralph Lauren designer clothes who is a very active homosexual. Hmmmm. Remember the big Nike debate? That was a tough one for the “leadership” on the softball team to swallow.

  3. Jerry,

    Do you think Jesus required only certain tunics or sandals? Thank you for reading and commenting.

    John

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